Three thoughts on the idea of love.Or one.


Happy ever after... I guess at the end of the day, thats what we're all searching for in a relationship. But considering the world and mindstate we live in, is that what we are instinctly searching for even realistic ?

Let's sum some things up a little. On the one hand a big part of our whole being is about consuming, so is the world around us. Consuming is part of our lifestyle, part of us. I don't wanna go to far on this cause it is not what this is about, but I think we can agree on that our lifes have become very consume orientated in many ways. We don't buy new things because we can't use the old ones anymore for some reason, or because they are worn out or because the new I Pad is what we always needed. We buy them because we want to have them, always looking for an upgrade, always on to the next one. I think this can be generalized starting from looking at simple things like body lotion to things like shoes, clothes,cars....

Then on the other hand we hold on to an idea of love that represents spending a whole life with the same person. A concept of love that is totally opposed to our way of living. It's like telling someone  that wearing the same, not the same lookin, but the exact same shirt for like 30 years is THE THING . This is a paradoxal kind of fucked up situation. Is our generation stucked in some deep 21th century mind/heart confusion? Heart striving to find the one, mind always on to the next one. Is this our great depression ? Our great war? A war that takes place inside of us?

Let's switch to a bigger perspective than just romantic love. Maybe that's just me, but I think that we tend to lose our ground easily, in this mostly in fast forward ever-changing world. What you lose is your inner strength, your own way , your own voice, basically your focus. It's a jungle out there for the 20something, ambitious cool cat eVerette. Being focused was never more important and never more highlighted than these days. I mean the

" be yourself listen to yourself do your thing " -talk is on EVERYONES lips. Bottom line of the talk of the subcultural town : Do what you love , love what you do. And thats where it pops up again. Love. seems like that the more our lives develope into the described direction, the more we highlight the importance of love in it and even if our lifestyle displays quite the opposite, we  instinctively keep holding on to the ideal of the happy ever after romantic love (Even if some of us maybe don't really believe in it anymore,we still wish for it, don't we ? I do) Why?

Balance. Everything is balance. Love is a concept of something that remains real and stable amongst our tangled reality. Love is pure, love is truth, love is the connection between the mind and the heart. Love keeps the balance that we are  instinctively striving for in life.


1If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.
2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
9For we know in part and we prophesy in part,10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears.
11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.
12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
I Corintians 13


I am not  religious, though I believe. For me, these words from the bible doesn't represent some kind of religiousness. They represent consistency, stabilty and an idea that overcame religion, politics, war...time, space. An idea which is omnipresent and has always been a part of humanity since the dawn of time. An idea that helps us to keep the balance between the mind and the heart. An idea that went from Adam and Eve to Jay Z and Beyonce without changing, without adjustement. I mean it would have been more than reasonable, if the ideal model of love would have changed over the years. Maybe  a long distance open realtionship would be an appropiate model for the present time.The fact that this age-old grey haired boring and romantic concept of pure and honest love made it through the years, through all the changes that we and our world  have been through and are going through everyday, every year, every decade, is worth a thought, or three.

What do you think ?

Lone Catalysts - Renaissance 


Dedicated to Chima , an Inspirer.

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